Parenting Children of a Blended Family

I think this is an important topic as to nowadays couples are getting together and they are both or maybe one are bringing children into their relationships. I myself am a product of a blended family. My Father and Mother divorced when I was a young age. At the age of 9 my Father started dating whom I call my Little Mom. My Little Mom had a daughter, and obviously my Father had myself, my sister, and my brother. As my Dad and my Little Mom’s relationship evolved we became a unit (one).  My Little Mom took us on like we were her own, she never differentiated us as her step-children, she treated us like her own children.  We knew we had a biological Mother and my Little Mom respected that.  My Little Mom never pushed us to call her “Mom.”  However, in time I realized my Little Mom did so much more than my biological Morher.  My Little Mom was there emotional, mentally, physically.  She was the most selfless woman I have ever met.

She taught me so much in life. She taught me what unconditional love is, how to become a woman, how to raise children, when I was ready, along with other numerous things. She taught me blood isn’t thicker than water.  Family doesn’t have to be blood.  I am forever grateful to have had her in my life, she was the best thing that ever happened to me.  My sister, her daughter, and I are close. We never label one another as step-sister, step-Mother, or step anything.  They are my Little Mother and my sister.

People have to set aside labels. People who do get into blended families with children need to know labels make a child feel insecure and feel different. I wasn’t raised that way and I will never label my fiancée’s daughter as a step-child, because she is not, and she doesn’t deserve that.  I treat her the same as I treat my own. Children need that, they want to have normality and stability in a blended family. My fiancée does the same for my girls, and they respect and love him.

Those who do get into a blended family, please think of the children and how they may feel, and please treat them as you would treat your own children, if you have your own.

I did this blog on behalf of My Little Mom who has left us at a young age, 5 years ago. The impact she has had on my life is amazing and I am forever grateful. I wish she were here because I know she would be proud of all her children. I do know she would have loved my fiancée and his daughter as well.

Fly high my Little Mom, until we meet again. I love and miss you more than you could possibly know! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Me, Daddy, Little Mommy, Ashley 

My Heart and Soul